It is in our human nature to always strive for better and for more. We chase the next best thing. This is not bad in itself; I believe there is no end to continuous learning, personal development and advancement.
The bad comes when we attach our happiness to our achievements, our partner, our children, our job etc. The bad comes when it is the responsibility of all these external factors to make us happy.
The bad comes when we do this at the detriment of enjoying the present and we allow whatever situations we are going through, determine our state of mind.
I have to say that I still remind myself of this every day; it happens to the best of us.
For a while I was living my life temporarily, without realizing it.
I’ll be happy when:
I get married…
I have my baby…
I get a better job… I can’t get a better job without a Master’s degree…
I have my Master’s degree…
I get that amazing job…
I realized I was living my life in transit; always searching and never content. I had 4 jobs in 3 years, and within 2 weeks of starting a new job I was already looking for the next one. My line was “I’m always looking.”
If we are always looking there is a bigger chance of missing the blessings right in front of us.
Happiness is not a feeling; it is a state of mind; the state of being present and content in where you are.
Contentment is not in being happy go lucky if you are currently in a bad situation. It is not letting your current situation determine your outlook on life.
It is awesome to want to improve ourselves. In fact, the day we stop improving is the day we die. I strongly believe in going out and achieving our dreams and passions, hence my blog!
We cannot afford to do this at the detriment of ignoring the present and always looking over the fence.
It always seems like the grass is greener on the other side, only for us to get there and realize that is murky brown.
We compare ourselves to others, even more so now with social media. We all post the best of the best times for the world to see.
We see only the curated versions, and we do ourselves a huge disservice by using that as our standard for happiness and fulfillment.
Transforming our minds and changing our thinking is the beginning of finding happiness.
Start were you are. Start with being thankful for waking up this morning and choose to see the glass half full. When life gives you lemonade, invite the girls over and have a party!
Remember, the world is your runway, wear confidence on your sleeves!