What does the word FEAR mean to you. We don't think about what it means, we only know how we feel when it comes. We know how it is the number one reason we don't step out of our comfort zones.
I heard this on the radio last week.
F - Forget E - Everything A - And R - Run
We are in flight mode and we run whenever anything unfamiliar comes at us. This is exactly why we stay in our comfort zones. Afraid of failing, afraid of what people might say or think. I will be the last person to say that I am fearlessly following my dreams. In-fact I am filled with trepidation of failing and a little bit concerned of what people think. (I say a little bit, because I still wonder.)
But I do it anyway. What is the alternative? I have thought, where do I see myself in 5 or 10 years. The one thing I am most I afraid of is being in the same place I am today, not having moved forward or achieved anymore than I have today. The thing I am most afraid of, is looking back and regretting the things I never did.
That fear is one of my biggest motivations! It drives me and pushes aside the fear of failing or what other people think. It pushes me to take action now! We should be more concerned about what we think about ourselves than what other people think of us. The people that care don't matter and the people that matter don't care.
Why don't we turn that word around to mean:
F - Face E - Everything A - And R - Rise
As bad as it may feel, failing shows us one more way of not doing something. If nothing, it leaves us with more knowledge and experience we can apply moving forward. They say if Plan A fails, there are 25 more letters in the alphabet. Re-group, re-evaluate and try again. The worst disservice we can do to ourselves is learning nothing in that "failure"
There is also that chance that we will succeed! That we will rise! Trying again takes courage. A lot of it. I'm writing this for myself and as much as I am for you. Some weeks ago, something I was really looking forward to didn't come through. I was so disappointed, I cried. I'm not a cryer and I didn't realize how much I wanted it, until I didn't get.
It was a bad time, I didn't want to get out of bed the next morning. I'm thankful for Kay's support and pep talk that got me a little better. After a few days of praying and meditating, I recovered and realized I can't continue to wallow. I had to keep moving. It is okay to cry, it is okay for things not to be okay. But the important thing is to get back up. Even if you are crawling never stop moving, never quit.
The only antidote to fear is action! The first time back on the saddle may be difficult, but after that first time it is not as scary anymore. And the more you do it and keep moving the better you get and the more progress you make. Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear. The Bible says it best: "For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind".
Three things to remember when fear comes, which is inevitable:
- Worrying doesn’t achieve anything: The antidote to fear is action. If you’re holding off because you’re afraid to pursue an idea, worried that you might not succeed or about what others will think, you won’t achieve your goals. If you push through the worry and the fear, and take action, you’ll almost always find that you were worried about nothing.
- Failure is not the end: If you give up when you fail, you’ll never learn anything. Instead, look at failure as an opportunity. See it as the beginning of a new journey. That way, you’re much more likely to try again and succeed at something else.
- Fear is the number one motivator: If there isn't a little bit of fear, then we are not trying something new and venturing out of our comfort zone.
We will never be comfortable being un-comfortable. Our brains are designed to protect us from all forms of pain. Fear is a form of pain, so avoidance is our default reaction. But with a gradual shift in mindset to take action no matter what, we will begin to make progress and achieve amazing things!
I have truly been inspired by this poem from an amazing spoken word artist, Titilope Sonuga. In her words, Fear is a growling animal with no teeth. I imagine and visualize that and it just puts things into perspective. No matter how much the animal growls, that is as far as it can go. It can't bite or hurt me no matter how much it tries.
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