I am excited to be back after taking a much needed break. I was forced to take a break. My brain had been telling my body I needed a break but I didn’t listen, until my body forced me to. I was running on all cylinders.
You know the feeling of always being so busy but not exactly achieving the goals you feel like you should have achieved already? Exactly! That was me! I was so busy, barely catching up on daily life and work, let alone tacking on a blog and business.
The funny part was I felt so guilty taking some time off. I felt like I should be doing something during my time off. I should at least be writing some posts and taking some pictures ready to go. As much as I wanted to, I just could not! My brain refused! I now know what writer’s block means.
Right there was the sign that I really needed that break. I felt so guilty for needing and taking a break. I had to find a way to deal with the guilt, and I did not start feeling rested, until I did. Life happens and it is okay to not be okay all the time. We are human after all!
How did I get here and how do I move forward and avoid this in future?
First, I did not set priorities. Everything was always super important and needed to be done ASAP. I have come to realize that, this is not true. Thinking that every single thing is equally important caused a huge overwhelm!
There is no way to get everything done, some things will definitely suffer. And of course, the more things go undone the more overwhelmed and guilty we feel for not getting everything done. It is a vicious cycle!
Next thing I didn’t do was set boundaries. I said yes to everything. That’s what happens when you have no priorities. Anything can derail your plans for the day or week if you let them.
And of course all these led to being overwhelmed, stressed and being over tired. Even when I was sleeping I was not fully asleep. My brain was churning and working to figure stuff out. Do you see how this was a recipe for disaster?
To get rid of the guilt of taking time off I had to reassure myself of these these things:
It is okay not to be okay. It is okay to cry, to sleep and to take time off. All these feelings exist for a reason, until you work through them and not just stuff them away into an old dark store (... my reference to a cartoon I watched as a child called Super-Ted - look it up!) like they don’t exist, before you start to heal and truly move forward.
Everything will be there when I get back. This is not a race against time or anyone else for that matter. This is my life, because someone else was able to do something in 6 months or less .. (or whatever), their life and situation has nothing to do with me. Therefore whatever stage we are right now is where we need to be and we need to be okay with that. Whatever has been left undone will still be there when we return. So to move forward we have to truly put everything aside and get better.
If I’m running on empty how can I function as a person, a wife, a mother, a friend…? I should know this right, after all I wrote this post on it a while ago. Of course that made me feel more guilty because I of all people, should know better. So I had to remind myself of my humanity!
I’ve had time to reflect on how to move forward and I have realized:
To not just exist but thrive, I must set priorities and set boundaries. When you know what your priorities are then you know the important things that need to get done and when. Setting priorities help to set boundaries. When you know what you have on your schedule and something else pops up, you know might have to reschedule or alternatively you may have to say no. And that’s okay too. Of course life happens, so being flexible and adaptable is part of the equation.
Most important lesson of all, I am not alone. I am a child of God, therefore nothing will come my way that I cannot handle and overcome. I have also been blessed with an amazing family that are my support system and greatest cheerleaders! So I plan on taking a step at a time and moving forward stronger and better.
Are you going through difficult times and do you need a little break, even a few hours will go a long way. What better time to take a break than in the summer. The sun is shining and the weather is warm. Take that break!